Agreed. I wouldn't take it personally.

And I while I think this view of coffee dates is stupid, I wrote about it, you want what you want, and there’s nothing wrong with the way she handled it. Some want more; more effort, deep conversation, etc. It's a first date!

If I learned anything in my time dating, it's that I loaded too much on a first date. And I did not want that kind of expectation. She did him a favor. There are plenty of women who’ll find a safe, low expectation coffee date, just fine.