Hmm. I had an impactful relationship that only lasted three months. She was highly triggered by anything approaching a 'you statement,' such as unsolicited 'you should to do X.' In this regard, 'I statements' are a huge step forward for some people and can change a dynamic.

I still feel 'I statements' are key. I want to hear I statements. Now that I think about it, an I statement, without the you statement might be best.