I have no idea who these people are, that say shit like this. I know there are some men, who expect, no, want to pay. And I know there are women who expect, no, want men to pay. I am not that man, and I never dated those women. Sure, I was lonely and horny in between relationships, and sometimes that time alone seemed to drag on. But, there are decent people out there, you just can't give up. And, as I found out, you have to stick to your gut/value or listen to your intuition. I would never say I was assaulted, (I'm sorry you were), but I did relent and get naked with someone I shouldn't have. I saw the signs, but I was lonely. It wasn't worth it. I'm glad you found someone.