Men also want an emotional connection, and they also want their needs met as well. Transparency, logistics and financial stability... the older I got, the more important these became. I wasn't offering sex, nor was I willing to delve into emotions too deep. But, I am open and engaging. I took women at their word when they say they want men who listen, and men who aren't expecting sex right away. What was interesting was how some simply didn't know what to make of a man who kept a lid on the sexual energy and wanted to know who they are. They simply didn’t reveal, and I didn’t ask for a second date.