That flirting thing is hard. If it doesn't come naturally, you can’t just decide to do it. I was terrible in my teens and 20s. Utter failure. I can flirt now. But I'm 57 and partnered. Even after divorce in my 30s and 40s I was likely too earnest to flirt. And you know what, that's ok, there were women who were earnest too.

That said, I'd tweak Simon's advice on flirting by saying develop an easy banter instead, focus on your conversation skills. Learn to inquire/ask questions. Also talk about your interests, but don’t dominate. Learn to be brief and let them ask for more if they’re interested. Don't expect the conversation to lead to anything, just let it be a conversation. And lastly, if you want to try flirting, be friendly to little old ladies. They aren’t inhibited or easily embarrassed, they’re safe (there’s no pressure) and they appreciate the attention.