That relationships require effort and maintenance, and that one should be willing to put in the work at those times, is one thing. But relationship shouldn’t be work all the time. I am totally willing to gear up to be present for my woman. But is she capable and willing to be present with me without analyzation? Can she be still? Can she rest with me without a to do list on the table or in her mind?

The problem with most discussions about relationships is that women define relationship and men react. Hey, I’ve got a deep connection with my wife. But we both get to raise the white flag and say enough. We both define what relationship is.